When planning your wedding there are so many factors to consider, lots of planning, organisation and a list after list after list of things to do and create.
First step is to rope in your best friends, partner and both sets of parents for some help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and to delegate some tasks to others, that really what they are there for. They want your day to be as special as you do and as stress free for you as possible so you can spend all of your time enjoying this momentous time. Let them take off some of that pressure, take their advice and note it down (even if you don’t use it or like it haha)
All steps first dance have created a sure fire list of ideas and tips for planning the most amazing and special wedding day ever.
1. Pop down to your local stationery shop
Pick up a diary and all important note book at your nearest stationery shop. A friend of mine recently showed me her ‘ scrap book’ which gave me some wonderful ideas to help you guys plan and organise ideas. There are plenty of beautiful note books online at amazon or even in your local supermarket like tesco and asda. Write done all of yours and your partners ideas. Themes, flowers, cake, venue, guests, reception buffet and drinks, and much much more. My friend had used those tiny half post it notes to section off her pages and ideas. First stop the Venue.
2. Do your research.
This you can delegate to your bridesmaids or maid/ man of honour. Pick one item per week to research, take venues for example, research lots of different types of venues and factor in how many guests you would be likely to have and consider your theme in this too. Research local venues such as historical local castles or buildings, farms, barns or even fields. Research cost! Do you really need to get married in the height of summer and on a Saturday? Ideally yes but cost wise? no thank you. Cost is normally increased considerably during those summer months but can we actually call is a summer with the great British weather being so unpredictable. Why not try out a Thursday and let your guests know to book the Friday off work, that way your guests will have Thurs- the following Monday off work! now that sounds great to me. April seems to have come up trumps on the weather front in the past few years so check out some different times of the year. An autumn wedding maybe or over Christmas? What about combining it with NYE? Pick a different topic the following week such as flowers? Shop around and always take someone with you to actually look at the quality of the flowers? Consider only using seasonal flowers, your bridesmaids can help with this by a simple google search, then you can book a prosecco fueled meeting with them to discuss.
3. Check your finances.
Keeping an eye on the cost of the wedding can be extremely tricky so you could as dad or an older member of your family to set up a spreadsheet and keep all your finances in check for you. We can all get over excited by a wedding which can often lead to over spending. Get someone responsible to help keep you in check. If you are on a tighter budget then hand make some of your decorations. Consider the environment too whilst you are planning table decorations and flowers. Why not use local seasonal flowers then donate them to a local older person’s home or take some to the local day centre after. Do you really need those added balloons and glitter? Consider if they will actually enhance your day, will it matter if you don’t have bubbles etc. Weddings do not have to be expensive. Save what you can prior to your wedding and try to pay as you go so it is less on a bill the week leading up to the wedding. My friend used trees instead of flowers for the church and reception. The trees were planted in the most beautiful hand decorated pots and following the wedding these were planted in a community area for everyone to enjoy. Do not be afraid to use second hand items. Check out ebay or facebook market place. Lots of people wish to sell or give away left over table decorations or added extras like flip flops for the evening etc. Do not be afraid to check these out you can always tweak them to being exactly what you want but at half or none of the added cost.
4. Listen to your venue or wedding fair.
Check out local wedding fairs and events with the girls and your mum. It’s a fun day out and can give you so many ideas. Keep it local and try what your venue or wedding fair recommends. Usually they have lots of tried and tested companies under their hat such as photographers or florists, caterers, bands and entertainers. Check out reviews from previous customers or ask around on social media for some opinions. No doubt you will have also attending a few weddings prior to your own also so ask your friends who they used and check them out (it doesn’t have to be the same you can tweak bits)
5. Ask for extras.
Do not be afraid to ask for a sneaky added extra. Extra cocktails for the bridal party or for your band to stay and play one more set? Bribe with beers if you have to but if you don’t ask you don’t get. Ask your family if they could contribute towards the wedding? Perhaps your parents help with the venue and your partners with the cake? Ask friends who bake to provide cupcakes in the evening reception. Let this be your wedding gift. Traditionally wedding gifts were home gifts and most welcome however times have changed and wedding gifts are a little more tricky. Why not ask that wedding gifts are cake, flowers for your little flower girls or a necklace from nan or grandma.
6. Be prepared for rejection too.
Just be mindful that not everyone you invite will be able to make it or companies may let you down. Try not to let this bother you too much just focus on the guest who will be there and try different companies or local businesses.
7. Organise some fun things to do during your planning
It doesn’t have to be all work and no play. Get those hen and stag parties put into place early on so you have some rest and relaxation to look forward to. All steps first dance offer some amazing hen dance packages, stag do dance evenings and even wedding first dance lessons. Check out or packages and drop us an email. Booking in some time to let your hair down could quite possibly be the thing that keeps you sane during this organised time.
8. Make a policy for kids and stick to it.
Yes, it is hard, no one wants to have this conversation but it needs to be addressed in order for you all to have the best time. You have a few options but once you have decided you need to be firm in sticking to this. You can welcome children with open arms. You can decide to have an “adults only” wedding, you can include immediate family only or, you can hire a child care service to provide day care at the reception space. All steps first dance have fully trained and DBS checked professionals who can do this. To prevent hurt feelings, it’s wise to avoid allowing some families to bring children while excluding others (unless, of course, the children are in your bridal party).
9. Take one step at a time.
Put together a wedding planning schedule and do things one by one, in a logical order, so you don’t take on too much too fast and end up with everything snowballing around you. Don’t hire any vendors before you’ve confirmed your date; don’t design your cake before you’ve envisioned your flowers; and don’t book a band before you’ve settled on a space.
10. Most importantly…. Enjoy yourselves.
This wedding is for you, the both of you to show your commitment and love for each other. It is simply about the combining of two people. It isn’t for everyone else. It isn’t to be the best or have the biggest most expensive day. It is however an intimate moment between two people and their friends and family. It’s to party, dance and be free. Take time to slow down and appreciate your surroundings. Take a moment to look back at everyone and everything and smile.